Group Therapy: Does He Need To Know My Entire Past

Got a woman who's relationship has hit a wall, but the guy feels it might be time to get married. However, before that happens, a woman would like to know, does he need to know my entire past?

In this edition of Group Therapy with The Mike & Carla Morning Show, that's the email we got this morning. A woman wanted to know if the guy she has been dating for the past few years, really needs to know her entire past?

And to say that there relationship hit a "wall", so it might be time to tie the knot? WTH? But before he makes the jump, he wants to know everything about her past. Is this something you would agree with?

Since this is your chance to advise this woman, a lot of listeners say heck no. At this point in time in the relationship, what does it matter. It's in the past, let's move on right?

According to an article put out on Marriage.com, bringing up your is a slippery slope. And it might come up at different stages of your relationship. The article suggests that you tread lightly. Some are quite content taking secrets of their past to the grave!

Right off the bat, Mike O'Brian said that your better half only needs to know about 85% of your past. All that other stuff back in high school, college...you were a totally different persona back then. It doesn't have an affect on the person you are now.

Carla Rea agreed for the most point. What's done is done...unless it's something illegal that can come back to bit you in the butt.

And the listeners that texted in and called in felt the same way. One guy said that if the man wanted to know her past, get ready to open the flood gates. Here's the truth and nothing but the truth.

One woman said RUN! It's a red flag to hold it over the woman...all he needs to know is what kind of person she is now! But you can decide, listen to the entire segment and see how you feel in the end!

Everyone has a nickname, or a "pet name" for their significant other. Right, pookie?

Do you have a cute little nickname for your significant other? Well, here ya go, the nicknames couples in Nevada and other states use the most. Someone did a very deep dive, and analyzed tweets from all 50 states to find the top "pet name" couples in each state use more than other states.

Psychologists say that using nicknames in a relationship helps foster trust and intimacy. But,  it definitely depends on the tone you use.

Shorty, or shawty, is the top slang term of endearment in eight states. It’s a hip-hop word that has come to describe a sexually attractive woman. Although the level of respect depends on the context it’s used in. Shorty’s meaning has evolved since the word debuted in Too $hort’s “Everytime” (1985), and old-school hip-hop fans may use it to refer to a man or kid.

Most nicknames are more common, like "sweetie" and "cutie."  South Dakota likes the term "dearest," and people in Alabama are calling each other "sweet cakes." But in Nevada, well - we seem to like the word "hunk!"

You can change your own name, but you can't change that cute nickname you have for your significant other. Those terms of endearment evolve as your relationship evolves -  and your defenses fall, and your hormones rise. Though I wonder if there are people who have used the same nickname for previous partners - just because that's the pet name THEY like to use.

Here are the top nicknames in the US. This doesn't include the most common ones, like "babe" and "honey."  Still, a lot of the ones on the list are pretty common, until you get to the end of the list. Some interesting, and I think maybe even a little regional, nicknames.

Whatever your favorite nickname is - enjoy, cupcake!

Nine states use it more than average.  (Arizona, Kentucky, Minnesota, Missouri, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Utah, Washington, and Wisconsin)

Eight states really like this one: Connecticut, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio, and Virginia

The five states that use it the most are Georgia, Michigan, Tennessee, Texas, and West Virginia. (Honestly - it's  kinda gross. But you go ahead, West Virginia!)

Five states:  Florida, Indiana, Louisiana, New Hampshire, and South Carolina.

(Hey - you try to find a Bae. So here's a Bay)

Four states:  Alaska, Idaho, North Dakota, and Oklahoma.

Four states love this old favorite:  Hawaii, Maine, Mississippi, and New Mexico.

Four states don't cae about Wifey, I guess:  Delaware, Iowa, Nebraska, and Vermont.

Three states said "fine, hubby, now it's our turn!:  California, Colorado, and Rhode Island.

This one is most popular in Arkansas and Kansas.

People in New York and Montana use it the most.  I don't really think of Montana as a sugar daddy state, but sure. Oh - and eww.

These are the most unique nicknames that only had ONE state each:  Nevada likes the word "hunk," women in Wyoming are saying "my boy," calling your husband or wife "dearest" is big in South Dakota, and Alabama likes the term "sweet cakes!"

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