Morning Group Therapy: Dating An Older Man

Since it is Tuesday, it was that time for another session of Group Therapy...the issue is dating an older man! Every week we dust off the couch and have a session of Morning Group Therapy on The Mike & Carla Morning Show. A chance for listeners to seek out advice from the morning show and/or listeners who might be going through the same thing.

This morning, it was an email from a 35 year old female who is dating a man in his sixties. They get along great and have been seeing each other for awhile, but stated that the other day was the first time they went out with her friends. Although it seemed that the guy got along with everyone and they seemed to like him, it was that aftermath that she's concerned about.

Many of her friends started texting her and questioning her decision to date a guy so much older that her. And here in lies the dilemma, should she ignore the friends and go with her heart or listen to her friends and drop the guy? It seemed that quite a few listeners have gone through this. In fact, a few callers admitted that they're currently involved right now with this type of relationship.

However, the advice was interesting ranging from "go with your heart" to "drop the guy now before he gets too old"!  That's right! A few people starting doing the math and looking at the future. As he got older, were you prepared to take care of him? Hmmmm! Granted, it's something to think about right?

But we did get a coupe of calls saying she was fine. That they were indeed in that type of relationship and fully committed. One call from a woman who is 14 years older than the guy she is with. And you know what? They are having the time of their life!

Listen to the segment yourself and see if you don't have some advice. If you do, just drop us a line at the  Mike&CarlaMailbag@963kklz.com.

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Dating is nothing like it was a few decades ago. Heck, dating isn't anything like it was even just a few years ago, with all the different dating apps and online ways to find love. But, one thing hasn't changed: People still want to be appealing. They want to put their best foot forward in the dating world. So, what are some ways to be more attractive and appealing when you're on a date?

Actually, this list works even if you're not looking to date or are already are in a long-term relationship. Why not be as attractive as possible just for yourself? I'm not just talking about the physical, either. There's so much more to being an appealing person than looks alone. Dictionary.com has some definitions of attractive that show the broadness of this term. They say the word means "providing pleasure or delight, especially in appearance or manner" and add that words such as "pleasing, charming and alluring" all apply. They also use the word in the context of having "an attractive personality" or "arousing interest or engaging one's thought" and "consideration."

Of course, not all definitions are so broad. Some do come down to appearance and vanity. Vocabulary.com defines it as, "Anybody or anything that's attractive is visually pleasing or draws you in." They add that it also has to deal with attracting others, of course, and that, "for people, being attractive usually means you're beautiful or handsome enough to pull in the attention of others."

That said, in this list, I'm really focusing on ways to be an all-around attractive person. This is largely not a list about how to be physically prettier or more handsome. Sure, some of these tips are physical. But, for the most part, these are ways to be instantly attractive in the dating game and a more appealing person overall.

This one might seem odd. If you're trying to attract someone, why would you try to focus on them? But, it works. People like to feeling like the person their with is actually interested in them. It helps you actually be an attractive person if it isn't always about you and if you focus on your partner, date or friend.

Sure, you want to look good on your date. But, if you're wearing heels that are too high or pants that look cool but just don't fit, you might be uncomfortable, and that will make the other person uncomfortable. "The most important thing is that you feel comfortable in what you are wearing. If you are not comfortable, it will show in your body language and your date will be able to tell," says Houseofcoco.net.

Everyone always talks about confidence being attractive, and they're not wrong. Being confident in yourself is a very attractive quality. You don't need to be an egomaniac or anything, though. No bragging fests on a first date. Just, be confident in who you are and in the spectacular, rock star of a person that God created you to be.

This goes along with confidence. Just be you, because nobody else can be you. "As cheesy as it sounds, the most important thing you can do on a date is to look and act like your authentic self," notes Southerntide.com.

This is a tricky one. I'm not a big fan of perfume. But, it's good to smell nice on a date. That said, do not - I repeat, to not - overdue it. There's really no bigger turnoff than someone who smells like they just took a dive into a pool of really strong perfume or cologne. Less is more.

Show off those pearly whites! Something as simple as smiling can make you instantly appear attractive, because it implies that you're happy on both the outside and inside. No RBF, please. Smiling is contiguous, too, in the best possible way.

Your mom was right when she told you to sit up straight. "Slouching makes you look unconfident and bored, neither of which are attractive qualities," notes Houseofcoco.net. "Sit up straight and make sure your shoulders are back. It will make you look more confident and alert, two qualities that are sure to impress your date."

Dating and socializing is supposed to be fun. Humans were meant to be together in a community, and that's a good thing. So, just have fun on your date. Be playful. Laugh. Flirt. Wink. Okay, maybe don't wink. That's creepy. But, you can send a wink emoji. Simply have fun.

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